The term “incel” stands for “involuntary celibate” and refers to a subculture or group of individuals, mostly men, who feel unable to find romantic or sexual partners despite desiring them. Within online communities, incels often use specific code words or phrases, known as “dogwhistles,” to communicate ideas or sentiments understood within their group but not necessarily obvious to outsiders. Here are some frequently used dogwhistles among incel communities:
Chad/Alpha: Refers to stereotypically attractive men who are perceived as highly successful with women. “Chad” is often used pejoratively to signify an ideal that incels feel they cannot achieve.
Stacy: A term used for stereotypically attractive women, often depicted as being interested only in “Chads.” It carries connotations of superficiality and unattainability.
Looksmaxxing: The practice or belief in enhancing one’s appearance to become more attractive, often through extreme measures. This term reflects an obsession with appearance as a primary determinant of social success.
Red Pill/Blue Pill: Borrowed from the “Matrix” film, taking the “red pill” refers to recognizing and accepting what incels consider the harsh truths of modern gender dynamics. Conversely, the “blue pill” symbolizes ignorance or conventional belief systems.
Beta/Betabux: “Beta” is used for men who are perceived as subordinate to “alphas” and typically seen as less sexually desirable. “Betabux” refers to men who compensate for their lack of attractiveness by providing financial support to women.
Black Pill: An extension of the “red pill” ideology, the “black pill” represents a fatalistic belief that one’s genetic makeup dictates their ability to find romantic success, leading to a sense of hopelessness.
JFL (Just Fucking LOL): Used to express disdain or disbelief, often in response to challenges to incel beliefs or self-deprecating acknowledgment of personal setbacks.
Normies: A derogatory term for people who conform to mainstream society, particularly those perceived as unaware of or indifferent to the struggles incels face.
Hypergamy: The belief that women inherently seek to form relationships with partners of higher socio-economic status, reinforcing incel perceptions of societal and dating dynamics.
Foids: Short for “femoids,” a derogatory term for women used to dehumanize and express anger or resentment toward them.
Understanding these terms is crucial because they highlight the worldview and grievances that pervade incel communities. They encapsulate feelings of alienation and disillusionment, often exacerbating negative emotions and fostering an “us versus them” mentality. It’s important to approach these discussions with sensitivity and a focus on promoting healthier attitudes and supporting mental well-being.
